A propensity to equate enjoyment of coitus with orgasmic satisfaction remains embedded in both medical and popular discussion despite nearly a century of study of female sexuality.
For most men, apparently, orgasm is satisfaction. Women, however, traditionally have been expected to find enjoyment in an activity – coitus – that results in orgasm for women in only a minority of instances. Thus women’s pleasure in sex, which may consist of arousal, enjoyment of physical intimacy, or the expression of affection it represents for both partners, is routinely interpreted both by scientists and even by some historians as orgasmic experience, whether or not it actually is.
Lover individuals are most fulfilled by building relationships. Naturally appreciative, passionate, and committed, they enjoy creating consensus and motivating others to see and utilize their own special gifts. They’re usually excited and challenged by opportunities to enjoy the richness and fullness of life.
Lover organizations often are very successful at building real partnerships among employees and clients; seeing the possibilities for greater quality of life inside and outside of the workplace; and establishing harmonious ways of working together.
Lover types need to be careful about cliquishness, emotional intrigue/drama, and conflict avoidance.
- Partner/intimate : Forms close bonds; finds ways to make others feel special
- Harmonizer : Ensures that relationships are harmonious and pleasurable
- Connector/matchmaker : Brings together people/groups who are well suited
for each other
- Aesthete : Appreciates/creates beauty and beautiful environments
- Bon vivant : Lives life with passion and enthusiasm
Even for couples who have been together for a long time (and perhaps especially for couples who have been together for a long time) it can feel very vulnerable to voice a sexual desire. The thought alone can set off a fireworks display of fears, leaving us raw and edgy in our most tender spots. If we do find the courage to ask, we then have to field the response. There are few moments as saturated with sensation as the moment a request for sex has crossed your lips and is still hanging in the air, waiting for either acceptance or rejection. We can’t seem to help assigning a lot of significance to the outcome. If she says yes, it means you are attractive, acceptable, desirable, sexy. If she says no, it means you are the opposite of all those things. These are, of course, just interpretations; they are not the truth.
From what I can tell, intimacy is most likely to thrive if you liberate it from excessive thinking and lubricate it with generous amounts of trans-rational contact. For love’s sake, empty your head of abstractions, opinions, and theories. Make lots of room for the aroma of freshly washed hair, the simmer of peaceful excitement, the shuddering solace of moist skin, the zing of poignant empathy, the wisdom of wandering hands, and the telepathy of shared perceptions.
– Rob Brezsny
“Studies have shown that during orgasm, a man’s brain lights up mainly in the pleasure centres. But when a woman enters an orgasmic state, several major areas of her brain go silent – particularly those involved with inhibition, appropriateness, and evaluating her environment for possible threats. Because of this phenomenon, a sense of safety is an absolute prerequisite for a woman to lower her guard enough to really get off.“
From the visionary founder of OneTaste and the creator of OM—a groundbreaking practice that redefines orgasm from a woman’s point of view—comes the first-ever complete guide to OM in book form. Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm is all you need to revolutionize your orgasm in just fifteen minutes a day. The practice that #1 New York Times bestselling author of The 4-Hour Body calls “the keys to the kingdom,” OM unlocks a woman’s orgasm so she can connect more deeply to her partner and her own sexual desire.
Women report increased sexual interest, more energy, and a new relationship to their hunger. Men report more confidence, more satisfaction, and more sex. With these benefits, it’s no surprise OM has become the daily practice of thousands. But how to get started?
Nicole Daedone will walk you step-by-step through: Read more
Excerpts from Albert Mohler, Southern Baptist Leader, On Yoga: Not Christianity The Huffington Post by Dylan Lovan
Southern Baptist Seminary President Albert Mohler says the stretching and meditative discipline derived from Eastern religions is not a Christian pathway to God.
Mohler said he objects to “the idea that the body is a vehicle for reaching consciousness with the divine.”
“That’s just not Christianity,” Mohler told The Associated Press.
Mohler said feedback has come through e-mail and comments on blogs and other websites since he wrote an essay to address questions about yoga he has heard for years. Read more
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The New Man Podcast hosted by Tripp Lanier
We learn how women perceive men and how men can “show up” more fully to experience new depths in meeting, dating, and serious relationships with women.
The Authentic Man Program is a San Francisco-based workshop that helps men learn to look deep inside themselves and connect with their deepest truth. It also shows them how to take that awareness out into the world to meet and relate to other people—especially women.
TEDxSF – Nicole Daedone – Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman