Orgasm is the body’s ability to receive and respond to pleasure.
Ask a hundred people what it takes for a man to have an orgasm, and hands will shoot up all over the room.
But ask that same group of people for the formula that will make a woman orgasmic, and the show of hands will be sparse at best. Everybody knows how to get him off, but she’s … complicated.
Thanks to cultural conditioning that says a woman’s parts are best kept in the dark, many women have a hard time feeling connected to their genitals – and thus, their own orgasm.
Which, as it turns out, is very different from a man’s.
So when we compare her orgasm to his (which we do) and hold his orgasm as the model she should be striving for (which we do), then her orgasm can look like a problem child who sometimes refuses to come to the party.