Journal of Aggressive Behaviour

From How to lose friends and alienate colleagues: Show cleavage, study finds Globe and Mail, by Erin Anderssen

Dressed too provocatively, “she violated the unwritten rule all women should know about,” said Dr. Vaillancourt, the Canada Research Chair in Children’s Mental Health and Violence Prevention, who hopes the study will help people think about the reasons behind certain reactions and stereotypes. “It’s women who suppress the sexuality of other women.”

The most important career decision you’re going to make

(as a woman) The most important career decision you’re going to make is whether or not you have a life partner, and who that partner is.

– Sheryl Sandberg in her 2011 Barnard College Commencement address.

Will the Real Lesbian Please Stand Up?

From SEXIS What You Want It To Be written by by Tinamarie Bernard

It wasn’t until a long-time friend confided in her about her a midlife lesbian affair that the author was willing to investigate female sexual fluidity, and not just from a scientific distance — new research suggests a woman’s libidinous nature expands as she ages — but also psychologically.

What is it about growing older that frees women to explore fantasies they may never have had envisioned in their younger, heterosexual days?

Read the entire article …

Sex and the Vibrator Movie

re-posted from The Better Sex Blog, written by Bat Sheva Marcus

I admit it. I have been waiting all my life (okay, maybe just the last 10 years) for someone to make a quality film about the incredibly interesting history of vibrators. Really. I’m not kidding.

And finally, someone is doing it. (Well, I can’t actually vouch that it’s quality, but it is a real film). Maggie Gyllenhaal, the beautiful, feisty, funny and sexy chick from Secretary (another blog post on the feminist aspects of BDSM in the future, I promise) is going ahead and starring in a movie called Hysteria, about vibrators. Imagine a rom-com about the vibrator history. Someone order the popcorn! http://www.aceshowbiz.com/news/view/w0005673.html Read more

TNM: The Women of AMP – Women Are Not Just a Pain in the Ass?

The New Man Podcast hosted by Tripp Lanier

Episode 009: The New Man Podcast sits down with the amazing women of the Authentic Man Program as they share a little bit about how women work.

We learn how women perceive men and how men can “show up” more fully to experience new depths in meeting, dating, and serious relationships with women.

The Authentic Man Program is a San Francisco-based workshop that helps men learn to look deep inside themselves and connect with their deepest truth. It also shows them how to take that awareness out into the world to meet and relate to other people—especially women.

The Value of Scars

Give me a man who’s been through a couple of good crises and has put some thought into who he is.

Most of my friends, single women in their 30s and 40s, seem to be faced with two polarized choices when confronting the dating pool of heterosexual men: either
1) men who are considerably younger, or
2) men who are considerably older. (I calculate ‘considerably’ as more than 10 years age difference.)

All my theories about this conclude that men my age are unavailable due to a current long-term relationship — or technically available but emotionally unavailable due to the recent break up of a long-term relationship. (I calculate ‘recent’ as anything between this morning and six years ago.)

When age-appropriate mates are in short supply, the alternatives must be considered. One busy friend said to me recently, “If any single woman in her 40s is not involved with a younger man it means she’s looking for a relationship.” I hadn’t realized there were so many younger men seeking more senior partners, and have to say the familial connotations, and foreseeable emotional/physical clumsiness holds no appeal. Those guys haven’t figured themselves out yet, but they’re cocky enough to think they have. Read more