Do they know it’s Global Orgasm for Peace Day at all?
Adam Gabbatt takes to New York City’s Union Square to find out how people are commemorating an unusually tingly holiday. Created by a former kindergarten teacher and a retired psychiatrist, Global Orgasm for Peace Day encourages people to focus their ‘thoughts before, during, and after orgasm on peace and loving-kindness’.
An Ode to Orgasms reposted from Clutch Mag online – by Arielle Loren
It’s the way I shake, insides trembling, back arched, sighs released. There’s nothing like an orgasm to remind me of the power of sexuality, our bodies’ relationships to sensuality, and the innate gift of being a woman with a vagina. Female orgasms are God’s gift to women. When pleasured right, we climax harder, longer, and more frequently than our male counterparts. We can feel vibrating energy from our heads to our toes. We simply get more from making love.
I don’t know when women got duped into believing that sex was for men. But there’s enough women sharing their bodies with partners that aren’t invested in the joint experience of sex. These women have become the vessels of male pleasure, vaginal walls gifting bliss without reciprocity as an expectation. Read more
Orgasm is the body’s ability to receive and respond to pleasure.
Ask a hundred people what it takes for a man to have an orgasm, and hands will shoot up all over the room.
But ask that same group of people for the formula that will make a woman orgasmic, and the show of hands will be sparse at best. Everybody knows how to get him off, but she’s … complicated.
Thanks to cultural conditioning that says a woman’s parts are best kept in the dark, many women have a hard time feeling connected to their genitals – and thus, their own orgasm.
Which, as it turns out, is very different from a man’s.
So when we compare her orgasm to his (which we do) and hold his orgasm as the model she should be striving for (which we do), then her orgasm can look like a problem child who sometimes refuses to come to the party.
Even for couples who have been together for a long time (and perhaps especially for couples who have been together for a long time) it can feel very vulnerable to voice a sexual desire. The thought alone can set off a fireworks display of fears, leaving us raw and edgy in our most tender spots. If we do find the courage to ask, we then have to field the response. There are few moments as saturated with sensation as the moment a request for sex has crossed your lips and is still hanging in the air, waiting for either acceptance or rejection. We can’t seem to help assigning a lot of significance to the outcome. If she says yes, it means you are attractive, acceptable, desirable, sexy. If she says no, it means you are the opposite of all those things. These are, of course, just interpretations; they are not the truth.
From what I can tell, intimacy is most likely to thrive if you liberate it from excessive thinking and lubricate it with generous amounts of trans-rational contact. For love’s sake, empty your head of abstractions, opinions, and theories. Make lots of room for the aroma of freshly washed hair, the simmer of peaceful excitement, the shuddering solace of moist skin, the zing of poignant empathy, the wisdom of wandering hands, and the telepathy of shared perceptions.
– Rob Brezsny
“Studies have shown that during orgasm, a man’s brain lights up mainly in the pleasure centres. But when a woman enters an orgasmic state, several major areas of her brain go silent – particularly those involved with inhibition, appropriateness, and evaluating her environment for possible threats. Because of this phenomenon, a sense of safety is an absolute prerequisite for a woman to lower her guard enough to really get off.“